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Effecting Change in your life   Leave a comment

6 Ways for Effecting
Change in Your Life↓
Two reasons people are
usually able to affect
change are inspiration and
desperation. Six ways to
implement change are:
the desire to change must
come from within
yourself, understanding
that change is inevitable,
learning to enjoy change,
work for the changes you
desire, keep that change in
perspective, and relax;
these six things can help
you effectively deal with
Why Do People Change?
The two reasons people
are usually able to affect
change are:
Inspiration – you
have a desire to be
different than you
perceive yourself to
be today, and/or
Desperation – you’re
forced to examine
your life by some
event – physical,
emotional, or mental
– that occurs in your
Both of these situations
are excellent catalysts and
motivation for change. But
how do you go about it?
What actions are
necessary to produce that
6 Ways to Implement
We all deal with change,
well or poorly, every day.
The challenge for most of
is not so much that we
have change to deal with,
but how well we manage
it. Managing change well
means less stress, less
work, and more time to
feel content, joyful, and
How can you manage
change better? I’ve come
up with six ideas I think
can help all of us deal
more successfully and
smoothly with the change
in our lives.
1. First and foremost, the
desire to change must
come from within
yourself. You need to
change your mind – your
feelings. Facts are
wonderful things to get
your arms and your mind
around, but how often
have you made yourself
aware of essential
information and then
acted in contrast to what
that data tells you?
Support from family,
friends, co-workers, and
others can be important
(although this isn’t always
the case), but you are
solely and ultimately
responsible for making the
decision to change.
2. Understand that
change is inevitable.
Statisticians rely on the
fact that the future will be
very much like the past,
because the future has
always been much like the
past. However, they
recognize the Human
Dilemma, posed by
philosopher David Hume,
which states that we don’t
have any evidence that
the future will be like the
past. And honestly, though
the future is always much
like the past, it’s also
always different in many
ways. Once we accept
that tomorrow will be
different, we can accept
those changes more
readily when they come.
3. Learn to enjoy change.
This sounds like a very tall
order, but let’s think about
it. Change often causes
stress. But the body often
does not know the
difference between
negative stress (distress)
and positive stress, or
excitement. We could just
as readily be excited by
the change, but we put a
negative turn on it in our
minds, and choose to feel
threatened and upset
rather than excited and
4. Work for the changes
you desire. We all know
that change is going to
happen, whether we want
it or not. We may not be
happy with that state of
affairs, but we do know
that change is coming.
What we can do to make
that change more pleasant
is to make sure that
we’re actively helping to
enact the changes we
5. Keep change in
perspective. Sometimes
we get so overwhelmed
by the idea of change, that
we see every change as
equally threatening.
Really, some changes are
more important, and
affect our lives more fully,
than others. By learning to
choose our battles with
change, we can spend
much less time worrying
about and fighting small
changes, and much more
time learning to deal with
the larger changes that
really matter.
6. Relax. If you’ve done
the other steps, if you
know there’s going to be
change, if you’re enjoying
change as much as you
can, working for the
changes you want in your
life and environment, and
understanding which are
big changes and which are
major, then you’re doing
all you can to deal with
change. Relax. Enjoy your
These six ideas can help
you deal effectively with
change. Why not start
Many of us often make
things more difficult than
they have to be. To avoid
this, start with the very
simple things, and then
move on to more complex
issues. Try these
suggestions to get
yourself started:
1. Spend some time
thinking about the
most recent changes
in your life. Did you
see them coming?
How can you begin
to understand the
inevitability of
2. The next time you
experience a major
change, practice
feeling excited rather
than stressed.
3. Pick one thing you
would like to change.
What can you do to
make that happen?


Posted August 10, 2012 by Fammeya Yelebe in Self Improvement

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